Frustrated

My ex called and he's out of jail and I just cannot entertain conversations with him. I told the SW and was a bit upset about her recommendation of visits each week. In Feb, we had come to an agreement on a few things if he was loaded and that was that he'd get 1 visit a month.

He's been in jail twice now since this happened and he's not had anything "taken away!" If I were to have been in jail twice, they would have adopted my kids out.

While his is not the "offender" in the case, he is still my son's father and should be held to the same standards that I am. If I lost the kids, he would not be in my son's life. If I keep the kids, I have to deal with him?!?!? Why is that?

I'm told I have to "coparent" with him at some point and I just do not see that happening. The man cannot take care of himself, let alone the responsibility of a child. Even when I was in my deepest darkest days, I still paid my rent!

I am proud of my accomplishments. My income has gone way up, I am able to buy my kids things they "want" and need. We do things. I don't break promises. Things are just GOOD! And I don't to disrupt my son's behavior because his dad's back out of jail. I have told them over and over I would support a relationship between the two once he is on solid ground. The minute the man moves out of the THU, he's loaded. So again, he's at the beginning and at some point, will be out of the THU and then what???? My son will be older and reattached and then where's that leave him?