Closer to losing the STBX-Husband verbage

My STBX-Husband has gone to someone to help with the divorce. I got some papers yesterday and he said I'm suppose to appear in court on April 19th. The papers didn't indicate a court date but I assure you, I will be at this hearing.

This saved me a grand! How bitching is that?

He called the other day to tell me this then went on about seeing our son. He said that he could fight this...as if he could win....when we go to court and it will just prolong everything. I laughed my ass off telling him there was no way I was giving him more than I was comfortable with and if he didn't like it....then take me to court. I'd be GLAD to tell my side.

He kept asking when he could see him and I just don't have the answer to that question. I told him he could talk to him on the phone but that I have grave concerns for my son's emotional well being should he come back in and get loaded and leave again. He doesn't seem to carry the same kind of concern that I hold. Big surprise. It's always been only about him.

So 3 days ago, I left him call and they talked on the phone for a few minutes. I'll try that for the next few weeks to see how that goes and after he's out about 2-3 months, then I'll allow one visit. But he will not be seeing him more than 1-2 hours a time and no more than 1-2 times a month. He will get exactly what he earned while the kids were in state's custody.