I DID IT!!!!!

Two days ago I sent via certified mail a letter to the STBX in the recovery home telling him that I will not accept phone call or allow visits unless he petitions the court. I still have never recieved the final papers so I really don't even understand what was ordered after Social Services closed the case.

I just know that I feel free and I'm not going to speak to him...return his calls...or read his letters. They will be returned unopened and phone calls will go unanswered.

I did tell him how he could contact me and that is through Family Court.

Since doing that. I feel much better and peaceful about things. I have tried so many times with this guy. I've been forgiving and passive. I've done things I said I wouldn't. But at some point you have to quit spinning your wheels and stop waiting for people to come around. I have become a different person on 2 years since my kids were taken. I did it! I reunified and he could have too. He didn't and why should I continue to deal with his bullshit.

Did you know that if I failed to reunify, my children would have been adopted out and it would have been their choice as to whether me or the ex received contact. And if the answer was NO then there is nothing that we could have done. So I ask...if that's the case, then why should I continue to have to deal with his bullshit? The answer is simple.....I don't...that's what family court is for and that's where he's been referred!