He's asking for a revision in support!
I'm so pissed I could fucking scream. My Ex is asking for a child support modification because he's hurt and he can't pay his support and he's going to get behind in support!
I'm fumming.
I'll tell you why.
My son is 4 1/2 years old and he saw his dad for 10 hours last year.
Yep, that's right, TEN HOURS. Why is that you ask? well, that's what was ordered because he can't stay clean and he failed to reunify. That's all he EARNED in the process of going thru Social Services.
So I carry 99.9988584 of the burden. That's number is no joke by the way. I didn't make that shit up! That's the honest to god truth.
I carry the physical burden and now the financial burden. Not even now because its been a lot longer than just NOW. I have always carried the burden.
When he was in jail he didn't have to pay a dime. NOT ONE TIME! So now that he's hurt and on a temporary medical disability, he wants out of his reponsibilites. Why can't he make it up later? Why can't he go into arrears to pay me back for the times I had to carry the entire financial burden? I'm not bitching at him because he can't pay. I figure eventually he will have more money and will pay more money.
But I feel and I figure differently than he does. He things about himself and no one else and any progress in niceness I made with him in the last 2 weeks is out the window.
I filled out the paperwork and I will be mailing it tomorrow. If he's going to nickle and dime me, I'm going to nickle and dime him. I put shit on that piece of paper I would have never ever thought to put on there. Sports, team pictures, school books, registration fees, you name it, I added it. I came up with $900 more in expenses than what I make.
I even wrote a letter. I said:
To whom it may concern:
I am responding to your request for me to submit my Income and Expense Declaration in the aforementioned case for the Child Support of my minor son, (insert name).
I have some things that I want considered during this discovery as to whether the orders will be modified.
(EX), the non-custodial parent, has been ordered to pay me $1069 in child support monthly. These orders went into effect on August 1, 2005. (Ex) paid about 1-2 months of support and then was incarcarated from October 22, 2005 to February, 2006. During that time, his support obligation was set aside and he was not responsible for ONE DIME of support to his son. The responsibility for financial support to my son rested solely on my shoulders with no future possibity of reimbursement. (Ex) was able to go out, be irresponsible and get arrested and then your offices removed his financial responsibility to his son. I understand this to be the law, but I do not agree that an irresponsible parent is not held responsible, if even in part during an incarcaration.
(Ex) is on temporary medical disability for a shoulder injury and he has indicated to me that he will be out of work for about one to two more months. By the time that this case is heard and a decision is made, he will be returning to work. I think his fear is that he will be jailed if he does not pay his support and I would never ever seek to have him imprisoned for failure to pay support.
If the orders are modified and then he returns to work, I will immediately file a request for a new hearing and support modification. (Ex) earns approximately $29 per hour or $60,000 per year as a (insert his profession). That is his income potential. I would like the courts to consider his income as an (insert his profession) and the fact he is on a TEMPORARY MEDICAL DISABILITY when figuring support.
Additionally, hopefully this can be settled without my apppearance being required in court but will appear if required. Please allow ample notice.
Kind regards,
(ME)
Still fucking pisses me off that some low life dad gets off while mom gets fucked, AGAIN.
I swear, if I never see him again, it will be too soon!
I'm fumming.
I'll tell you why.
My son is 4 1/2 years old and he saw his dad for 10 hours last year.
Yep, that's right, TEN HOURS. Why is that you ask? well, that's what was ordered because he can't stay clean and he failed to reunify. That's all he EARNED in the process of going thru Social Services.
So I carry 99.9988584 of the burden. That's number is no joke by the way. I didn't make that shit up! That's the honest to god truth.
I carry the physical burden and now the financial burden. Not even now because its been a lot longer than just NOW. I have always carried the burden.
When he was in jail he didn't have to pay a dime. NOT ONE TIME! So now that he's hurt and on a temporary medical disability, he wants out of his reponsibilites. Why can't he make it up later? Why can't he go into arrears to pay me back for the times I had to carry the entire financial burden? I'm not bitching at him because he can't pay. I figure eventually he will have more money and will pay more money.
But I feel and I figure differently than he does. He things about himself and no one else and any progress in niceness I made with him in the last 2 weeks is out the window.
I filled out the paperwork and I will be mailing it tomorrow. If he's going to nickle and dime me, I'm going to nickle and dime him. I put shit on that piece of paper I would have never ever thought to put on there. Sports, team pictures, school books, registration fees, you name it, I added it. I came up with $900 more in expenses than what I make.
I even wrote a letter. I said:
To whom it may concern:
I am responding to your request for me to submit my Income and Expense Declaration in the aforementioned case for the Child Support of my minor son, (insert name).
I have some things that I want considered during this discovery as to whether the orders will be modified.
(EX), the non-custodial parent, has been ordered to pay me $1069 in child support monthly. These orders went into effect on August 1, 2005. (Ex) paid about 1-2 months of support and then was incarcarated from October 22, 2005 to February, 2006. During that time, his support obligation was set aside and he was not responsible for ONE DIME of support to his son. The responsibility for financial support to my son rested solely on my shoulders with no future possibity of reimbursement. (Ex) was able to go out, be irresponsible and get arrested and then your offices removed his financial responsibility to his son. I understand this to be the law, but I do not agree that an irresponsible parent is not held responsible, if even in part during an incarcaration.
(Ex) is on temporary medical disability for a shoulder injury and he has indicated to me that he will be out of work for about one to two more months. By the time that this case is heard and a decision is made, he will be returning to work. I think his fear is that he will be jailed if he does not pay his support and I would never ever seek to have him imprisoned for failure to pay support.
If the orders are modified and then he returns to work, I will immediately file a request for a new hearing and support modification. (Ex) earns approximately $29 per hour or $60,000 per year as a (insert his profession). That is his income potential. I would like the courts to consider his income as an (insert his profession) and the fact he is on a TEMPORARY MEDICAL DISABILITY when figuring support.
Additionally, hopefully this can be settled without my apppearance being required in court but will appear if required. Please allow ample notice.
Kind regards,
(ME)
Still fucking pisses me off that some low life dad gets off while mom gets fucked, AGAIN.
I swear, if I never see him again, it will be too soon!
posted by Mom of Two Cubs | 9:30 PM
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