Revised Letter

I'm still really fucking pissed about this. So much that this is all I have done today. I have sat here, copied papers, adjusted a few figures and drafted this letter. I have a fucking headache. I cancelled plans for tonight. I know I shouldn't let it bother me but it does. He's fucking Nickle and Diming me and I'm sick of it! I fucking can't stand him. I don't know why I was even half fucking nice to him? I get absolutely nothing back. He is just a taker....he takes and gives nothing in return but fucking greif and bullshit. "Here's a rose for you" is my attitude and his is "Here's some shit!" What's sad, is he isn't even aware fo how his actions affect other people or the perception that he has given off!

Part of me feels like people will think I'm greedy but I'm not fucking Greedy. This man has stolen money from my bank account, left me with an infant, walked out at midnight and didn't come home for 2 days, we spent the first 6 months of our marriage screaming at eachtother because he was never home. He got arrested and I had to take a hit on my credit for his truck, not counting the court, threats, money I paid, bankruptcy...

I could literally go on and on and on and on! I'm done...i'm FUCKING DONE

Anyways, the letter I'm sending to Child Support is:

I am responding to your notice of a child support review that was requested by (EX). He is the non-custodial parent in this case.

I have filled out the attached information to the best of my ability and attached the documentation necessary to allow for a thorough review of my current financial situation. Please be aware that I do not have copies of my current pay stubs but I do have very accurate records of my income. This information can be verified through my employer’s Payroll Department at 888.XXX-XXXX

I have some questions and would like these to be considered during the review:

1. I have supplied you with the last 12 months of income which includes a $XXX base pay annually and commissions. There was a change in our compensation plan in January and then again in April 2006 which will affect my income and I would like your offices to consider this change when looking at my income moving forward. Additionally, the information I supplied to you on this sheet which details in income and commission, quota and rate of pay is strictly confidential and so please, do not share this with the other party.

2. (EX) is on a TEMPORARY Medical Disability and he has indicated to me that he will be out of work possibly one to two more months. By the time this order goes into effect, he quite possibly will have returned to work.

3. If a modification is granted, I plan on petitioning the courts for a review once his income returns to normal. If this happens, is there any consideration for the time that it takes to do the review? Basically, I’m asking if he were to return to work, would his support return to the current order or will we have to go through this process again?? Is this modification temporary like his disability or is this going to be casted in stone till I request a modification.

4. I am very upset that this modification is being requested after the order went into effect in August, 2005. From October to February when he was incarcerated due to his own volition and constant irresponsibility, my son went unsupported during that time. Not only unsupported, but the (Department) removed any obligation to him to provide reimbursement to me during this time. He was not responsible for even one dime and this puts the financial burden to me solely at raising our son. I don’t understand why a parent isn’t held to their financial obligations to their children and why reimbursement thru payment of arrears is abolished.

This makes me seriously question why I even have a support order to begin with!!!! I went to your office to help me in collecting and holding him accountable in the financial support of his son. More often than not he is in jail and if that is the case, no arrears will ever surmount. If (EX) were to win the lottery or come into money, there is no retribution back to my son for all the months he goes without support. While I understand this to be the law, I wanted to express the unfairness of the law from the point of view of the Child and the Custodial Parent. I know there is nothing you can do regarding this but I did need to vent my frustration that I have to go thru this process again for a temporary disability!!!!

5. I also hope that this can be resolved without going to court. Going to court costs me time and money. I also want a confirmation from your office that if a reduction in support is granted due to his temporary medical disability, that when he returns to full work, I can request another review and have support modified to include his regular income.

6. Lastly, I want it noted that on April 18, 2006, (EX) and I appeared in Family Court to finalize our divorce and the judge in the case asked him point blank “Are you satisfied with the current child support orders” and he answered YES! The orders were stamped April 18, 2006 (I have included a copy for record) that states the Child Support Orders are to remain in effect! What changed in the last week??

If you have any questions on this information, please feel free to call me at anytime at XXX-XXX-XXXX. Thank you for your consideration in this matter.


(ME)