Supervised Visitation Centers

I'm going to look at what it takes to have someone else supervise my son's visits with his dad.

I found this

He doesn't think....

...that he should have to wait 2 weekends to see his son. He thinks 2 hours afterschool is too much and that I should take 2, 1 hour days out of my week so he can see his son.

Lest I remind you, him, myself, and anyone elese that cares that he cancelled his scheduled visit.

How is that MY problem??

I told him I wouldn't do it over 2 days...that is MORE inconvenient for me. He indicated he'd like to take him bike riding on the hiking trail. I don't know about that yet. I think before I let him "out of sight" he should have about 6 months of consistent visiting. This is what, the 2nd month??

EX cancelled plans...seemed bothered I made plans!!!

the EX called Saturday to say that his plans cancelled and he wanted to see our son. I told him that I may have plans and he seemed bothered by that. Today I called to tell him I have too much going on and would have to visit either later in the week or in 2 weeks. I vote for "in two weeks" because I have shit to do this week....including getting ready for camping. He seemed bothered that I didn't just change my plans. But too fucking bad....who plans other things to do when he sees his son only 2x a month for 2 hours each?

Today, I have the following planned: someone buying furniture, picking up and dropping of DD at my mom's, laundry, softball game. I don't know how I can fit in 2 hours to just sit in my car twiddling my thumbs, waiting for his visit to end!

Wrote DCSS re: DD's dad's unemployment

I sent a letter today letting the DCSS know that DD's dad is unemployed and could be applying for unemployment.

It is my experience that he giveth only what is taketh! If there is no garnishment, he doesn't give a dime!!

EX won't be visiting son this weekend

This would be the weekend I would allow EX to see DS but he is going to visit his sister out of town. The following weekend we are unavailable.

I am going to look at the calendar today and tell him which weekends he gets (first and third or second and forth) and if he misses his visit, it will not be made up!

Apparently its more important to see his grown adult sister that he can travel out of town to see at anytime (especially since he's not working) than to see his son for 2 hours. Keep in mind, he gets 4 hours a month - 48 hours a year...yes.....TWO DAYS....sad isn't it?

DD Heads to a new private school

I have enrolled my daughter in a prestegious christian school in town and she was accepted based on her SAT scores and report card. They called to cancel the intake interview today because they didn't need to test her. Talk about a PROUD moment for me!

I will have some comments I will post later from the Teacher recommendation forms as I felt that they were not up to snuff. But that's okay...just things to work on I guess!

DD's Dad shows up at Softball....

He called me and was just like "don't beat on me, I'm beat down enough, I've had a bad week!" Poor You! All I want is "respect and notification that my childsupport may be interrupted!" Is that too much to ask? By the end of the conversation he said to me "You are right (insert my name!)" Yes, I am right. I new that! Geez!

He asked what we were doing. At the time, we were getting ready for the softball game so he asked if he could come...and he did. We didn't talk much. I bought him a soda and he wanted to come over and hang out but that wasn't happening. I had laundry to do and a friend of my daughter's to pick up so that's how we spent our day.

I know the "routine" and normally its "hey, why don't we get back together...you know I still love you!" That's great, but I'd have to feel the same way!

What I know about DD's Dad

I called DD's Dad's house lastnight...where his grandpa lives. His grandpa sounds like shit. He's suffering from cancer and just sounds horrible. I should go see him, but that's another post!

I was told that he (DD's Dad) had been back there about a week so that puts his move out date around the 5th of the month...when rent is due :lol Obviously his leaving has something to do with that. I called his girlfriend to ask her a few things but she's not called me back. So be it.....

Grandpa volunteered that DD's dad is out looking for a job. That's a shocker and now I'm wondering when my last child support check will show up. Doesn't it fucking dawn on him that he might want to let me know that he's out of work and child support could be interrupted. Is that too fucking hard to do? I wouldn't even flip out either if he did the right thing. But since he didn't, and he basically moved without telling me and now could be unemployed....FUCK HIM.

Fuck them ALL!

Men, not all, but some men are just downright selfcentered and fucking chicken. All he had to do was say "hey, I lost my job and moved home with grandpa" He could have even called me at home when I was at worked and done it the chicken shit way. But he couldn't even fucking do that. What a fucking loser!

I'm not calling again. That's it. I'm done with these assholes.

Now what I need to do which I said I'd do before is just bank child support. I'm creating an account with my mother and every time of child support will go in there and then anything extra I have, even if its a $1 will go in there. That way a little nest egg can build up and I don't have to worry about DD's schooling being behind.

EX Husband sends mother's day card

Puts it from his name/address and signs my son's name.

Thoughtful...sure...but I would have rather had the $2.50 towards the $600 he's always short on for child support!

I didn't get a happy feeling. I got a "I hate this man and he makes me sick" feeling.

Greeting cards aren't suppose to leave someone with that feeling. This goes to show you just how clueless he really is! A better gesture would have been giving my son the card last week when they visited and then having my son present me with it. This card isn't from my son...its from him....and I hate him and he makes me sick!

DD's dad moves home.....doesn't notify me!!

I am in the process of changing my daughter's school for next year so I thought it would be the right thing to do to tell him since we share Legal Custody. I called him on Wednesday and Thursday nights and then I missed the returned call from his Girlfriend....or shall I say EX Girlfriend.

Apparently, he moved back to his grandfather's house.

All I could do was laugh. I have no clue when this happened and I'm also not going to call him now. I cannot believe that he doesn't have the descency to call me and and say "hey, things are working out with my girlfriend (no surprise there!) and so I'm moving back to grandpa's!"

Sadly, the whole reason he moved home with the girlfriend was he couldn't afford something like $600 in rent.....FOR HIMSELF! Then his girlfriend let him move in....mind you they never last more than 3 weeks and they've done this so many times I can't even count....they truly are on again off again! This week...off again!

Anyway, when he does decide to call me, he's going to get a huge earful. I'm going to make this decision myself and if he doesn't like it, he can kiss my ass!!!

The grandpa is ailing and DD's dad is a lazy Son of a Bitch (the son of a bitch is a literal meaning too!!). The whole family on that size is something else. Grandpa is a nice man, but he's an ill man and he needs peace. DD's dad doesn't bring peace...he's lazy and very self serving.

I thought of calling the EX Girlfriend back but ya know what, I don't even care when he left. I just am thankful she had the descency to call me back to tell me "Um...Hi...(DD's Dad) doesn't live here anymore!" OMG, I burst out laughing. I told my daughter "Guess dad went back to live with Papa." She rolled her eyes!! She's NINE! She said "guess he couldn't pay his rent or he was so lazy she just kicked him out!" My girl is smart....and right!!!

EX Visits with Son for Hour and a Half

I complied with the court orders to allow my son to see his father yesterday from 3:30pm to 5:00pm. We met at the park and I didn't get out of the car and I also didn't say anything to him other then Hi and Bye!

I don't have much to say and I can't stand him. My son enjoyed the visit and had no questionable behaviors afterward. He did however call later in the evening sickenly sweet wanting to talk to "the man!" and I just handed my son the phone and walked into the other room.

He does call sometimes to say "daddy" is calling and I'll be squishing that here soon because my son doesn't answer the phone and that fool isn't my "daddy!"

He doesn't want a permanent child support change...

But the wheels are in motion and he's the only one that can stop that.

He's a fucking IDIOT! I fucking HATE him. It was all I had not to tell him what a punk ass little bitch he is. All the money, time, energy, fucking heartbreak and he whines about going into areas for a few months?

"But I can't work?"

So fucking WHAT!

He was shocked I said that but it's the truth. Half of my son's life he's been incarcarated. One quarter of that half he was in a drug treatment program. One Full Half he was out getting loaded, exhibiting disgusting behavior and the other quarter, if that, he was around....and that's a major over exaggeration.

Fuck him and fuck his kind! Loser!