DD has lunch with Dad and I visit the Lawyer!
What an emotional day!
DD and my mom meet her dad for Lunch. Apparently he's lost 15lbs, has a settlement coming of which I'll get $2000. He also wasn't "fired" from his job but he was. He had "something personal to do and needed a half day" and the boss told him that wasn't going to work out. Then approached him to say that if he quit, it would look better for him so here "sign this" and he did. What the fucking idiot fails to recognize is that you don't get to collect unemployment when you quit. If he wasn't allowed time off and was fired for it, especially if its a really compelling reason to be gone, then he would have been able to get it? Oh well, his loss.
My mom said he was pale and thinner. Sounds like meth use to me! I'm positive he's been using it because of our source and because of him going absent for days on end. DD wanted to go home with him, but that's not going to happen!
Later in the day we visited the lawyer. She gave great advice. It includes my mom siezing the kids at the event of my death or accident and immediately filling for guardianship. I'm to ask for Hair Follicle testing before DD resumes any kind of visitation with my ex (other than supervised). And she indicated it would be easy for me to ask for supervised visitation for my son so that's what I'm going to do. I have to prepare the papers and then go file.
I really wanted to hire someone to do this for me but its expensive and if its easy, then I should be able to do this. We are going to have to go to Mediation. Costs MONEY. FUCK! This whole thing is fucked up. Maybe he'll just go get loaded and be gone and then I don't have to worry about it....but I'll always have to worry about it.
I made two VIAL mistakes that resulted in the best gifts of my life and and just have to remember that. I have great kids out of it and not give anymore than my kids receive. There will be NO MORE phone calls or expectations on either one of them. If they call...great. If they don't, unless my kids are upset, then they can call. I won't be suggesting it or calling them myself. I need to just completely separate myself as much as I can and parent my children!!
DD and my mom meet her dad for Lunch. Apparently he's lost 15lbs, has a settlement coming of which I'll get $2000. He also wasn't "fired" from his job but he was. He had "something personal to do and needed a half day" and the boss told him that wasn't going to work out. Then approached him to say that if he quit, it would look better for him so here "sign this" and he did. What the fucking idiot fails to recognize is that you don't get to collect unemployment when you quit. If he wasn't allowed time off and was fired for it, especially if its a really compelling reason to be gone, then he would have been able to get it? Oh well, his loss.
My mom said he was pale and thinner. Sounds like meth use to me! I'm positive he's been using it because of our source and because of him going absent for days on end. DD wanted to go home with him, but that's not going to happen!
Later in the day we visited the lawyer. She gave great advice. It includes my mom siezing the kids at the event of my death or accident and immediately filling for guardianship. I'm to ask for Hair Follicle testing before DD resumes any kind of visitation with my ex (other than supervised). And she indicated it would be easy for me to ask for supervised visitation for my son so that's what I'm going to do. I have to prepare the papers and then go file.
I really wanted to hire someone to do this for me but its expensive and if its easy, then I should be able to do this. We are going to have to go to Mediation. Costs MONEY. FUCK! This whole thing is fucked up. Maybe he'll just go get loaded and be gone and then I don't have to worry about it....but I'll always have to worry about it.
I made two VIAL mistakes that resulted in the best gifts of my life and and just have to remember that. I have great kids out of it and not give anymore than my kids receive. There will be NO MORE phone calls or expectations on either one of them. If they call...great. If they don't, unless my kids are upset, then they can call. I won't be suggesting it or calling them myself. I need to just completely separate myself as much as I can and parent my children!!
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