EX Husband Calls / Says Sorry! Still deep in denial!
I was on my way home from work. Its been a very quite few days around the house with no one bothering me. DS' dad still hasn't called after the "Dad I hate you Letter!" I knew it would only be a matter of time before ex-husband calls.
That happened tonight.
I picked up the phone and he said he wanted to say sorry for getting angry! Yeah, whatever! Heard it all before. I did have the opportunity to tell him he's still living in denial and he's not a changed man. He starts in about visitation and getting more. I almost had to laugh. But I didn't. He asked what it would take. I wish I had thought of this on the phone but here is a scenario.
Iraq: We are at war and the Libs want to bring the Soldiers home by a specific date. The Repubs want certain criteria met before that happens. Let's just say I'm repub on both of these issues.
Some arbitrary date of say October 17, 2006 is not a date I will entertain for unsupervised visits. Why? Because who the hell knows what he's going to be doing by then. I said "when you're out of the SLE for a long period of time and have shown some personal responsibility."
"That will be at least 8 months before I'm out of the SLE" he adds!
"So!" I remark!
Lets do a quick synapse of the cycle of his drugs use.
Summer Months, November and February are bad for him. When he gets out of the SLE, the longest I've known him to stay FREE (meaning not arrested...I didn't say "clean" okay) has been 30 days. He gets loaded, does sick ass shit, gets arrested, goes to jail.
Do you think that I'm going to let my son go with him anytime before he blows my hair back and makes me think "WOW, he's really changed....all be darned...I was seriously wrong about that guy!"
That day has not presented itself to me. I'm not convinced it will ever happen. In fact, he's one of the only people on this planet that I personally know that I view as hopeless!
It's how I feel. It's valid.
So tuesday is the big day. I got all my CPS papers and other orders I've filed with the court and we are going to do this! We are going to talk to a Lawyer and we are going to ask for Legal Custody of my daughter and Professional Visitation observing my son's visit and I want to make my mother the guardian of my children if they die.
Simple! And I can't wait!!
That happened tonight.
I picked up the phone and he said he wanted to say sorry for getting angry! Yeah, whatever! Heard it all before. I did have the opportunity to tell him he's still living in denial and he's not a changed man. He starts in about visitation and getting more. I almost had to laugh. But I didn't. He asked what it would take. I wish I had thought of this on the phone but here is a scenario.
Iraq: We are at war and the Libs want to bring the Soldiers home by a specific date. The Repubs want certain criteria met before that happens. Let's just say I'm repub on both of these issues.
Some arbitrary date of say October 17, 2006 is not a date I will entertain for unsupervised visits. Why? Because who the hell knows what he's going to be doing by then. I said "when you're out of the SLE for a long period of time and have shown some personal responsibility."
"That will be at least 8 months before I'm out of the SLE" he adds!
"So!" I remark!
Lets do a quick synapse of the cycle of his drugs use.
Summer Months, November and February are bad for him. When he gets out of the SLE, the longest I've known him to stay FREE (meaning not arrested...I didn't say "clean" okay) has been 30 days. He gets loaded, does sick ass shit, gets arrested, goes to jail.
Do you think that I'm going to let my son go with him anytime before he blows my hair back and makes me think "WOW, he's really changed....all be darned...I was seriously wrong about that guy!"
That day has not presented itself to me. I'm not convinced it will ever happen. In fact, he's one of the only people on this planet that I personally know that I view as hopeless!
It's how I feel. It's valid.
So tuesday is the big day. I got all my CPS papers and other orders I've filed with the court and we are going to do this! We are going to talk to a Lawyer and we are going to ask for Legal Custody of my daughter and Professional Visitation observing my son's visit and I want to make my mother the guardian of my children if they die.
Simple! And I can't wait!!
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