I pulled the trump card!
The Visitation Center called and told me I needed to refile to ask for Professional Visitation and for him to pay for it.
So I'm prepared to do that.
I called him to tell him that and that the Church Lady wasn't going to work out. I sited reasons why including her possible inability to intervene in the visit if a situation arsied.
He was pretty pissed. Blamed me. Said I didn't want to have him visit. Brought up the moving south thing and how I'm just trying to keep him away. I tried so hard to be cordial and then I just snapped. I told him flat out what I feel about him. That I think he is disgusting and has very scary behavior. I mentioned the incident on War. Drive in SC that evening in Aug 2004 when he was wearing indescent clothing and doing really bizarre things. He was quiet and I was very verbal about it. He came back with telling me I'd be sorry and that he's clean and the judge will see that and start ordering more. He then said again that I was trying to keep my son from him. I finally told him to look in the mirror and blame who he saw. I am NOT going to cave to this....this is a feeling in my GUT and I'm following thru for my sake and the sake of my son. He inferred I was selfish. I finally just told him to fuck off and I hung up.
So I have the papers and I'm going to go to court tomorrow to see about filing them. If its easy, it will go on calendar. If its difficult, I'll consult with an attorney.
I'm doing the right thing. I know that and everyone I talk to, including the Visitation Center, says I'm doing the right thing. I'm not doing this to be a bitch but to protect myself and my son. In time, if he can stay clean, it will change for him but he thinks he should have the world handed to him with a rat ass 16 weeks clean and with 9 court cases hanging on his head and that's not the case. I went to Counseling for about 6-8 months, Outpatient for 6 months and parenting for a year. He didn't complete shit and I shouldn't have to supervise his visits. When the court orders were issued, his sister was here...that's change and sorry, but the Church Lady doesn't give me warm fuzzies!!!
So I'm prepared to do that.
I called him to tell him that and that the Church Lady wasn't going to work out. I sited reasons why including her possible inability to intervene in the visit if a situation arsied.
He was pretty pissed. Blamed me. Said I didn't want to have him visit. Brought up the moving south thing and how I'm just trying to keep him away. I tried so hard to be cordial and then I just snapped. I told him flat out what I feel about him. That I think he is disgusting and has very scary behavior. I mentioned the incident on War. Drive in SC that evening in Aug 2004 when he was wearing indescent clothing and doing really bizarre things. He was quiet and I was very verbal about it. He came back with telling me I'd be sorry and that he's clean and the judge will see that and start ordering more. He then said again that I was trying to keep my son from him. I finally told him to look in the mirror and blame who he saw. I am NOT going to cave to this....this is a feeling in my GUT and I'm following thru for my sake and the sake of my son. He inferred I was selfish. I finally just told him to fuck off and I hung up.
So I have the papers and I'm going to go to court tomorrow to see about filing them. If its easy, it will go on calendar. If its difficult, I'll consult with an attorney.
I'm doing the right thing. I know that and everyone I talk to, including the Visitation Center, says I'm doing the right thing. I'm not doing this to be a bitch but to protect myself and my son. In time, if he can stay clean, it will change for him but he thinks he should have the world handed to him with a rat ass 16 weeks clean and with 9 court cases hanging on his head and that's not the case. I went to Counseling for about 6-8 months, Outpatient for 6 months and parenting for a year. He didn't complete shit and I shouldn't have to supervise his visits. When the court orders were issued, his sister was here...that's change and sorry, but the Church Lady doesn't give me warm fuzzies!!!
posted by Mom of Two Cubs | 9:59 PM
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