Surviving CPS

This is my story about social services, domestic violence, co-dependancy, addiction and the removal and return of my children. They were taken into Protective Custody on 04-03-04 and returned to my care 02-24-05.


Tuesday, November 21, 2006

DD's Dad Busted

My mom called.

 

Her friend arrested DD’s Dad on Sunday Night. Apparently he’s hanging out with a guy that is known in (Town DD’s Dad Lives In) as a murderer but they can’t prove that he murdered someone or something so they are constantly following this guy around and taunting him.  I guess DD’s Dad was at his house or some crap and was arrested for being under the influence and booked.  Her friend said he was probably out, but he’s on Prop 36 and has probation so I’m not sure. She indicated he’s shooting dope (FOOL, he never used that way when we were together!) and she believes he’s committing burglaries.  I don’t know how she knows that but that’s what she said.

 

My mom’s friend noticed his name as familiar and asked if he had children…he said “The only thing I’ve ever done right..her name is (DD’s Name)!”  My mom didn’t say the cops name but I know exactly who it is.  She is cool as fuck and LOVES my kids and they love her. 

 

Anyways, he’s vile and disgusting so I don’t expect to hear from him anytime soon.  I still have those papers I need to file!

 

Oh, and get this….grandpa gave DD’s Dad money to buy a new truck after his last one was impounded and that new one got impounded.  They just throw money at this loser fuckhead and never ever once say “Does DD need anything?”  Makes me sick. 

 

And I talked to Step-Grandpa and told him that we have plans on CMas Eve so she wont’ be going. I didn’t get into how I feel about him – he seemed plenty okay with me using the excuse “its DD’s Dad’s day and since he’s reportedly using she’s not going with him!”

 

DRAMA…….

 

 

 

Another note to add....

Apparently, the Cop asked him where he gets his money to buy dope and he said a prostitute he knows. He also was speaking like a Jail Bird, using all the tough talk and false pride bullshit!

And he called his "girlfriend" who we all know who that is and apparently she was mostly concerned whether or not he was with another woman. Awww...Jealousy, isn't it a bitch!!!

Tuesday, November 14, 2006

FW: Update on DD's Dad

I tried to post this Monday, Nov 13th at 9:20am but it bounced…resending:

 

 

I don’t think I’ve been very good about updates so I’m going to try and recap the last week or so since Halloween.

So he showed up unannounced on Halloween. I called the next day (Wednesday) and he didn’t return the call till 7am on Friday.  Then he got pissy with me and told me to fuck off and hung up.  He called back, I didn’t take the call and he leaves a crass message about how he’s going to beat up my boyfriend and how everyone is just out to get him.

A few days later, he called again to say he was sorry…he was having a “bad day!”

Now, I don’t know too many people that wake up at 7am to a bad day but whatever. 

So, I’m behind in Child Care. I’m FINALLY getting the first full month of child support EVER..what a blessing that is – but that’s coming from DS’ dad so it’s a full month for my son…still getting nothing for my daughter.  I get depressed and my mom suggests I call him to inquire about if he’s working.  I found out from his grandpa that he has a car so how’s he paying for the gas and all the other things?  Well he just sounded WEIRD, like he was sick.  This was around last Thursday.  So say Nov 9th.  Again, that day he hung up on me all he wanted was to talk to his daughter.

He has not called to talk to her since October 30th!!!

Anywho – back to the last phone call. He just said “its harder to find a job these days” and he didn’t’ have much to say and didn’t seem to care that I wasn’t able to pay daycare.  He really just doesn’t give a fuck!  So I hung up and I’m not calling.  I am however sending him a long letter w/ a copy of the “pay or quit” for childcare and I’m going to hold him accountable for half of the medical bills. If he can’t be descent and have a relationship with his daughter, I can at least fight to get reimbursed HALF of whatever it costs for unpaid medical bills.

I saw his ex-girlfriend at the store the other day. She’s soo pretty and we talked about him for a minute. She said its been 5 years she’s been doing this with him and I just told her to move on – he won’t ever be what she needs him to be and she’s better off without him.  She agreed but I can tell she holds this hope he’ll get it.  She needs to turn and run and find a descent guy!

 

That’s about it for now!  I’ll update as I have more stuff to discuss!

 

DD's Grandpa Called / Possible Elder Abuse!

I got a call from DD’s Grandpa.  This is her dad’s stepfather.  The whole family dynamic is really messed up.

 

Great Grandpa has cancer and is sick and his daughter, DD’s grandma, is an alcoholic with no backbone.  Her ex-husband is the one that called.  He called to tell me he thinks DD’s dad is using but I already pretty much knew that by the sound of his voice.  Apparently, he’s not been leaving his residence with Great Grandpa.  I guess Grandma thinks there’s elder abuse but no one wants to do anything about it.  She lives here and calls her son, DD’s uncle, to deal with it but he lives out of state. 

 

I gave advise the best I could which was DO SOMETHING, get him out of there and if you fear his reaction, ask for a police standby and if necessary, seek a restraining order.  All I heard was “I know but you can’t tell them that because they won’t do anything!”  Well, then YOU DO SOMETHING!

 

SOMEONE DO SOMETHING!!!!!!!!!!!

 

Should I do something? Is it my place when this family has alienated themselves so much from me?  I’d love to, because I know how to get things done and exactly what to do but if Great Grandpa’s own daughter wont’ do something, then who am I?

 

It’s sad – I’m going to pray about it.

 

But basically, if DD’s dad is using, he’s in violation of Prop 36 and will return to jail.

 

 

Monday, November 13, 2006

Update on DD's Dad

I don’t think I’ve been very good about updates so I’m going to try and recap the last week or so since Halloween.

So he showed up unannounced on Halloween. I called the next day (Wednesday) and he didn’t return the call till 7am on Friday.  Then he got pissy with me and told me to fuck off and hung up.  He called back, I didn’t take the call and he leaves a crass message about how he’s going to beat up my boyfriend and how everyone is just out to get him.

A few days later, he called again to say he was sorry…he was having a “bad day!”

Now, I don’t know too many people that wake up at 7am to a bad day but whatever. 

So, I’m behind in Child Care. I’m FINALLY getting the first full month of child support EVER..what a blessing that is – but that’s coming from DS’ dad so it’s a full month for my son…still getting nothing for my daughter.  I get depressed and my mom suggests I call him to inquire about if he’s working.  I found out from his grandpa that he has a car so how’s he paying for the gas and all the other things?  Well he just sounded WEIRD, like he was sick.  This was around last Thursday.  So say Nov 9th.  Again, that day he hung up on me all he wanted was to talk to his daughter.

He has not called to talk to her since October 30th!!!

Anywho – back to the last phone call. He just said “its harder to find a job these days” and he didn’t’ have much to say and didn’t seem to care that I wasn’t able to pay daycare.  He really just doesn’t give a fuck!  So I hung up and I’m not calling.  I am however sending him a long letter w/ a copy of the “pay or quit” for childcare and I’m going to hold him accountable for half of the medical bills. If he can’t be descent and have a relationship with his daughter, I can at least fight to get reimbursed HALF of whatever it costs for unpaid medical bills.

I saw his ex-girlfriend at the store the other day. She’s soo pretty and we talked about him for a minute. She said its been 5 years she’s been doing this with him and I just told her to move on – he won’t ever be what she needs him to be and she’s better off without him.  She agreed but I can tell she holds this hope he’ll get it.  She needs to turn and run and find a descent guy!

 

That’s about it for now!  I’ll update as I have more stuff to discuss!

 

Friday, November 03, 2006

Call re: DD's dad

I called DD’s dad yesterday to talk about Halloween and him showing up uninvited/unannounced.  I said about 2 words before he went off on me.  I told him that I didn’t appreciate him coming over like that uninvited and that it was wrong of him to encroach on our plans like that.  He said “I have every right to go trick or treating anywhere I want to!”  Really defensive!  I told him that his behavior is scary and that if he keeps up stuff like that, I’ll get a restraining order on him.  He went OFF saying that “you can’t get a restraining order – I’m clean” and I said “I can if you keep up that kind of crap!” and then he basically told me to FUCK OFF and hung up.  

 

He called back 5 minutes later and I ignored the call…here is exactly what he said:

 

Ya know what, I’m just going to say that I’ve been trying to talk to my daughter and see my daughter but her mother isn’t letting me to see her.    Just because you had your damn boyfriend over there doesn’t mean…you know, how many times I”ve gone trick or treating there on that block and went there and seen her and that was awesome.  You…its’s…just because you don’t want your boyfriend to get beat up or whatever…ya know its just stupid.  Ya know, so quit quit all that.  Don’t character assassinate me because you know what, if I wanted to character assassinate you, I would have a long time ago and (daughter’s name) would have been in my possession. And I’m not going to…and I I didn’t do that okay.  So don’t judge me.  You have no no room to judge me at all. So uhhh…I just wanted to lay that in your court. So don’t call me at Grandpa’s house and harass me or nothing.  Ya know. Alls I want to do is talk to my daughter from now on.  I don’t want to have nothing to say to you. I’ll leave a message whatever I have to do.  I mean, I’ll just talk to my daughter.  And no body else because every body is character assassinating me so get over your big fucking high chair.

 

Wednesday, November 01, 2006

update on DS' Dad

DS’ dad has been working and his wages are being garnished and his company is sending the check late – and 2x a month. I will see a $850 check in about 9 days…..Finally.  Maybe now I’ll start to do better if that SOB can keep working.  This is the time of year he fucks up so time will tell.

 

I had to get on him to find out why its taking 3 weeks to get a check and he called giving me his employers phone number.  Yesterday I said nicely “Do you think you can call and do this for me since I do everything else for our son!”  His answer “I did do something…I filled out the paperwork for the garnishment!”  I went off…just like 2 weeks ago when he was bitching about having to pay $150 to see his son.  Its crap I tell you.  I carry the BURDEN of raising his child.  The morning, noon and night, clothes, toys, cleaning, cooking, doctors appointments, EVERYTHING and he can’t pick up the phone to ensure that his child support check that is taken out of his wages gets to where it needs to go?  

 

I have come to learn that some things and some people will never ever change!

Update on DD's Dad

Lastnight, DD’s dad appeared on my mother’s block trick or treating.  He asked 2 days before if DD could go with him and his Girlfriend and I told him that we had plans.  He showed up in MY neighborhood unannounced…uninvited and threw me into a frenzy.  Good thing I didn’t see him otherwise I would have told him to leave.  I am going to call him and talk about it because that is a total encroachment in my opinion.

 

And now with holiday’s coming, I’m sure he’s going to start trying to come around more.  It bothers me.  He is doing this because he’s on again with his on again off again girlfriend and my daughter isn’t a pawn to this other woman’s heart.  He uses DD to show that he’s this great caring guy when he’s with this woman and when he’s not, he disappears.

 

I’ve also made a decision that she’s not going with anyone on his side of the family for Christmas.  If they want to exchange gifts, they can come to my house and sit in my living room and open then.  I’m done with this bullshit the paternal side of her family brings to the drama table.

 

 

Mother arrested in Son's Death

This is horrific.  I cannot believe that someone would do this to a child.  While I have not been a perfect parent and I’ve made mistakes, I cannot imagine imprisoning my children, humiliating their natural bodily functions and feeding them caustic chemicals.

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POLICE FIND EVIDENCE BOY WAS TORTURED

MediaNews

Detectives investigating the death of an 8-year-old boy say his mother probably tortured him for more than a year in a dark dungeon of a bedroom before he swallowed household cleaner last week and died.

Richmond detectives arrested Teresa Moses, 23, on suspicion of murder, torture and child endangerment Friday night after staff at Kaiser Permanente Medical Center called police about the death.

Welts and bruises in various stages of healing covered Raijon Daniels' body. The injuries, officials said, told a long story of abuse: rope marks on his limbs, chemical burns, bed sores.

Moses' 3-year-old daughter is in protective custody and does not appear to have been a victim of abuse, police said.

Reports of Raijon's problems at home had crossed the desks of social workers at Contra Costa's Children & Family Services at least three times since May 2005, records show. In each case, he went home to his mother.

``It's just horrific what this child went through,'' Richmond police Lt. Mark Gagan said Monday.

The Contra Costa County Coroner's Office has not yet determined what killed Raijon. Regardless, police allege that Moses' actions Friday directly led to an excruciating death.

``It appears he was held hostage in the residence to prevent his escape,'' Richmond homicide detective Eric Smith said Monday. ``This kid was treated worse than a dog.''

Duct tape secured Raijon's sheets and covers to his bed when officers entered the apartment Friday. His window was locked, his door had a lock on the outside. The only other furniture in the room was a small table, where a camera for a baby monitor sat.

Raijon spent much of his time locked in the bedroom, watched through the monitor by his mother, police said.

``He was allowed one bathroom break at night,'' Smith said.

Raijon apparently frequently went to the bathroom on himself and in his room, detective Sgt. Mitch Peixoto said. His mother viewed the behavior as resistance.

``She said whenever she would get back from work, he would defecate on himself. She thought he was doing mind games with her,'' Peixoto said. ``I think he did it because he was scared whenever she came home.''

Pine-scented fumes greeted police at the apartment Friday.

``When I entered the apartment, it literally burned my eyes,'' Richmond police Lt. Enos Johnson said. ``It was horrifying to think that a child lived in that environment.''

Moses told detectives Friday night that she had poured the caustic contents of one container on her son's genitals earlier in the day to discourage him from urinating on himself.

Investigators found vomit and empty containers of cleanser in the bathroom and in Raijon's bedroom. They also found Raijon's dinner: a pile of brown goo, which Moses told police was beans and spaghetti, in a blender and in a cup.

She told police Raijon could not have solid food because he threw it. Soon after 5 p.m., after serving Raijon dinner and locking him in his bedroom, Peixoto said, Moses noticed on the baby monitor that Raijon had sat up and was ``doing a Stevie Wonder,'' in her words. When she went to check on him, she found him frothing at the mouth and unresponsive.

Moses called 911 about 5:15 p.m. Friday.

While police never previously arrested Moses, they encountered Raijon several times since May 2005. Each encounter resulted in a referral to county Children & Family Services.

``Whenever we hear about anything like this, it hurts us to our core,'' said Lynn Yaney, spokeswoman for the agency. ``But because of confidentiality laws, we can't discuss anything about specific cases.''

In March 2005, Moses called Richmond police to report her suspicion that a former family member had molested Raijon. Detectives investigated but found no evidence.

In April and May 2005, Moses sent letters to King Elementary School, which Raijon attended at the time, complaining that he received cafeteria lunches. She wrote in April that Raijon had a special diet and asked that he not get food.

The same month, the West Contra Costa school district contacted Children & Family Services with concerns about Raijon's behavior and diet, police sources said. A social worker investigated by phone but took no action.

In July 2005, a patron of a fast-food restaurant in San Pablo called police because a boy had been playing unattended there for two hours. Records show Raijon told the officer he ran away from home because his babysitter used handcuffs on him.

The officer saw no injuries on Raijon, and he denied that his mother abused him, police said, so the officer took him home to his mother. The officer wrote a report, which he forwarded to Children & Family Services for investigation. A social worker again completed a phone investigation without action, police said.

Raijon again ran away Nov. 23, 2005, records show, by jumping from the window of his second-floor apartment. His mother reported him missing. Police found him walking near Hilltop Mall. Officers brought him home and spoke to Moses, this time recording signs that all was not well.

The family regularly attended church on Sundays, and most neighbors agreed nothing seemed to be amiss, other than they kept to themselves.

``It's a sad story,'' said Ebenezer Amissah, Moses' neighbor across the hall. ``Other than the mother seeming a little weird to me, nothing seemed wrong.''