Call from DD's Dad and the MAILED letter!!!

This call came in 12/6 at 10:37pm

 

I just want to let you know..you don’t just show up at my house and drop a letter off. If you want to send me a letter, please, send it in the mail. You think you guys can’t get ahold of me, this and that.  You think my life is great and that I’m having the greatest life in the world right now. I have a lot of things going on in my life okay. I didn’t come and beat you down when you were kicked down. I thought about it though, I could have went there, but I didn’t. I want you to respect me more. I try with you and you always told me you would never hold (DD) away from me over money but that is what you are doing. I’ve asked Multiple times to see my daughter and it was always No…okay….”I don’t feel comfortable”…okay…I want to let you know that…I’m not okay with that.   I didn’t read the whole letter yet. I only read a couple of lines but I know what kind of letter it is.  So, I’ve never wrote you a letter like that and I’m trying to be really respectful to you.  Okay.  I’m having a tough time. I’ve been torn down…torn apart. I’ve had no……I’m just numb. I love her to death.  I talk about her (voice cracking to crying) all the time.   If I had all the money in the world, I wouldn’t (unintelligible) (possibly said – I wouldn’t need her love right?) its bullshit.  She could have all the money in the world and all I want is her love and I know I’ve got it!  Bye

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And I’m mailing this letter today!  I’m so done!!!

Dear (DD’s Dad):

At this time, you have left me no choice but to restrict your contact with (DD). I have made this decision based a number of factors.  Those include:

Ø       abandonment of parental responsibilities including your absence all summer (10 weeks no contact; no child support since August 2006 (Rec’d $37), $12,000+ in arrears.; and little interest shown in her day to day activities. 

Ø       continued use of methamphetamines, recent arrest(s) record and probable criminal activity;

Ø       no stable home environment.  Both Grandpa and your girlfriend, state you do not live with them;

Ø       I also understand from the Child Support Agency that you do not possess a valid driver’s license;

Ø       You were fired (or as you will probably say forced to quit) your last job because of your gambling/drug addictions and (DD) is without Health Insurance. Since May, 2006 you have been unemployed and you are not giving adequate attempts at becoming employed;

Ø       The attitude that I have observed from you in the last 3 months is scary, you act unconcerned, alarming and unstable.  Examples of this are:

(a)      Scary – showing up uninvited on Halloween and leaving angry messages about how you are being victimized by everyone, me included.  Your behavior is irrational and not indicative of someone in recovery.

(b)     Unconcerned – showing no care or concern when I have asked about your work and financial situation and then conveyed the struggles I am having.  You have a “its not my problem” attitude saying things like “what do you want me to do about it??”

(c)      Alarming – your recent arrest(s) and criminal activity, the loss by impound of two vehicles in less than 6 months;

(d)     Unstable – no job, no home, no phone, no relationship with your closest family members, nothing;

I am not the reason you do not see (DD) and I will no longer be subjected to your attempts to emotionally abuse me to make yourself feel better.  I have not created this for you and this is a very unhealthy situation for (DD).  The emotional upset you have brought into our lives in the last 6 months stops here. 

If you would like to initiate phone or personal contact with your daughter, you can contact the following Court Agency and file the necessary paperwork in order to request a hearing.  (County Court House Address)

Without a hearing and a court order, at this time, I’m unable to allow contact between you and your daughter.  The matter however will need to be addressed in a court of law only.