DD's dad out in a week and DS' Dad Relapses

DD's dad called about 1500 times on her birthday and finally, they were around to accept the call. They talked for a bit. It's the first time she was open to talking to him and she wants to see him. He is suppose to get out on the 28th of Feb. It will be interesting to see how long it takes him to call.

As for DS' dad, he told me yesterday he relapsed. I guess his brother got loaded and passed out in a gas station parking lot. The cops came and beat the crap out of him. He cited that as a reason and that his mom fell and hurt herself really badly. I don't want to get into all I told him but it involved the $300 I let him slide on and how I feel taken advantage of - trying to be nice and now I'm not going to see support for awhile to come. About how he's no good to his ailing mother because she will be in the ground before anyone can reach him because he's on a run and how's that going to feel? And then the most important - not knowing his son to the conversation I forsee having with our son about his dad being dead!

I have no course of action I need to take....I have what I need legally! There is nothing I need to do!

So his plan is to go to a residential program. Again, A G A I N the probation officer is going to recommend more treatment - he goes to court wednesday. Part of me wants the judge to just throw him away before he kills himself or someone else! If the latter ever happens, I vow to divulge all I know about my ex and how the system keeps letting him out so they can win a substantial settlement. Its not fair to society to keep letting someone like him break probation and continue to repeat the same patterns.