Possible Prison time

DS' dad called lastnight. He was down and had been to court earlier in the day. The offer is 32 months - basically 16 months doubled as he has a strike prior.

I can't say I don't blame the system but I feel bad for him. Bad that he's going to missnearly 3 more years of his son's life but he also is so rot and sick with addiction, that this is what is necessary to save the lives of those in society that are subjected to his addiction when he's on a run.

I'm not really sure how I feel about this........i'll post more on that later

Mediation Orientation finally attended and our Talks.....

DD's dad finally attended mediation orientation last week. 3 months after he was released from jail and 3 weeks before court. What an ass!

He wants overnights and I keep saying No. I keep telling him we'll discuss it then but I don't want him to have these and be ordered to 20% of the time when he's never exercised this in our daughter's entire life. He keeps telling its different this time but the problem is that he was clean and sober for 7 years and it never made a difference before. I've decided if he whines in mediation about finances, I'm brining up the fact the girl he moved in with is on low income housing and with him working, there is no way they could possibly be low income. That means he has more money to pay his $15k in arrears or the mounting medical bills I have.

I've accepted less for long enough. I'm not going to just roll over because he wants to show his face. That can and probably will change at anytime. Right now he's got no choice but to be a good boy because his fall-back place to live doesn't exist anymore. Grandpa passed away and there is no where and no one that will take DD's dad so he has to make it work or literally, be homeless.

We return to court June 18th and should be hearing on mediation before then. Should be interesting once there but I'm not being nice (or mean for that matter!) I just want him to step up and open his wallet and help support our daughter. Its simple really.

$1,540.56 / $15,019.16

Expenses Due and Arrears on the books!

I called dd's dad at 11am - he sounded as if he was sleeping. Asked for his address - he was quiet. Got it and told him i was mailing him expenses that he owes me because I don't want to hand this to him or affect his visitation.

I'm asking for $1540.56 to be paid directly to me and indicated that any money paid to child support goes for support/arrears. Anything to me, goes to the fifteen hundred he owes me for uninsured medical bills/premiums and dental exams.

I'm going to mail this midmonth - every month!

Strikes Dropped

DS' dad has been calling as I took some money he had from a paycheck and put money on my phone to allow calls.

Monday, he went to court and they dropped 2 of his 3 strikes leaving 1 on record. This means whatever he gets, if its state time, could be doubled. I sure fucking hope not but whatever happens to him at this point, wouldn't surprise me.

DD Visits Dad

I forgot about another visit that I didn't post - a local baseball game DD had tix too and I asked her dad if he wanted to take her - all went well. That was about 2 weeks ago and then yesterday, he had her for the day.

He keeps asking for her overnight and that's not happening, he gets supervised and rather than concentrate on her sleeping over, keep doing as he's been doing, calling regularly and asking to see her and coming thru. He's been better but still, time is needed.

Yesterday he picked her up alone at my mom's and I had to call him to ensure his girlfriend was going to be there. He was offended I didn't trust him and I had to explain that is what is ordered and we need to comply with the orders and that this is THIS PHASE and we can work to more in time.....nothing is forever right.....?

Anyway, they went to a mini-golf place, did the water slides then hung out at his place. She was at first going to come back around 2pm because his girlfriend had other plans w/ her mom but they cancelled on the mom. DD said there was some arguing between his girlfriend and her mother over this but honestly, the girlfriend did a nice thing so they all could comply with the orders. DD came home around 8:45pm and the girlfriend dropped her off on the way to her job.